Ssssh!

Why keep the pregnancy a secret?

I know people will wonder afterward, but Matt and I made the very important decision to wait until the first trimester was over to spill the beans to friends and family.

The reason we're choosing to do it this way, is because tragedies happen all the time in pregnancies. And as wonderful and exciting as it would be to tell everyone about the incredible news that's happening to us, it would be equally sad and painful to have to retell all of those people about a loss.

Imagine for a moment, that everyone knew about the upcoming baby. Everyone everywhere. And then something horrible happened, and Matt and I would have to go into a state of grieving. Then imagine, if you will, me walking down the street and having people who do not know the sad news reach out and touch my belly, or ask me about the little one, and me having to quietly respond "Actually..."

That's not to say though that I don't think that having a time of grieving is important. I know that miscarriage is extremely common in the first trimester and personally know a number of people who have experienced it. And since it is so common, I don't think it needs to be headline news. I sometimes think that maybe it's God's way of saying "Now is not the time for this soul." And then one day when you do succeed in having a child, then it IS the right time for the soul in this world. So yes, grief is important, but then moving forward into the future is so much more important!

But since Matt and I know we would not want to be grieving all alone in the case of tragedy, we agreed that we could each tell one person whom we trusted. So that in the unfortunate case of a loss, we'd have someone who knew what we were going through. Someone to be sad with.

So that is why we have decided to keep it a secret.

Plus the added bonus that the first trimester by far is not the prettiest. Morning sickness and fatigue, gas and crabbiness... If we wait to tell people at the start of the second trimester, they get to enjoy all of the good parts. And it all just seems magical, and time seems to fly by a lot quicker. It's a little more real at that point.

But God's protecting us. Matt, and me, and this new little life. And we're believing for a flawless pregnancy, and a perfect child. And I know that's just what we're gonna get!